Family bonding can be a challenging task here i attempt to use feng shui to improve harmony of the environment.
As a local born Singaporean, i have seen much progress in technology advancement in Singapore but not on human relations. The world is fast paced with internet, smart phones and people do not communicate as much. i am sure you have notice that over the last decade you see busy Singaporeans either talking on their smartphones or texting or watching online videos. i am not surprise that in 10 years time there will be good business for ophthalmologist or osteopathic doctor for eyes or chiropractor or orthopedist for stiff neck. Quite frankly i am amused, those days we don’t have phones yet people are closer.
Most family instead of spending quality time bonding together end up on facebooks, texting, video games and other techno toys. Here are some feng shui tips to improve family bonding. Amazing things happen when a family comes together. A family that can bond together will be a family that is united forever to withstand the hard knocks in life. Work, school, extracurricular activities; these daily activities that make our lives so busy create difficulties for parents to foster a bond with their children.
General tips to improve family harmony
1. If the 4 main your cardinal points of your home orientation, are direct North 0 degree, South 180 degree, East 90 degree and West 270 degree. These orientations are prone to heated argument among family members. In olden days these readings are meant for temple or royal palace.
2. Watch out for your Home “destiny” quarrelsome and gossip star “3”. 三碧禄存星 口舌是非. Engage a good feng shui master to neutralise the conflicts. In addition keep an eye on annual flying star quarrelsome 3, this year 2014 is in South-East sector. The characteristic of flying star “3” which is “wood” element is amplify because South-East is a wood-element sector. Year 2015 is in the centre. Year 2016 in the North-West sector.
3. Activate the your home destiny “9” water flying star to encourage love, compassion and to dilute the bad effects of flying star “3”.
4. Have some water-growing plants in the East sector of your house to enhance compassion and tolerance among your family members.
5. Choose a colour theme that is compatible to your family members favourable bazi elements. It should be balanced so that all family members benefit. For instance if “wood” is the common denominator based on birth profile reading, then introduce more “live” plants at home or paint the entire house with pastel green colour. Artificial plants does not work in home feng shui because they do not possess “life” energy. One should take caution to use “Red” as the main colour because red in feng shui is the most 阳 yang energy.
6. Avoid excessive flowers at home, this increase the chances of extramarital affairs if place in the wrong sector. Obviously for singles this works differently.
7. Using the common 8 mansions feng shui theory, find out the 廉貞 star position to reduce bad temper and conflicts.
8. Create a harmonious environment by balancing the “阴阳 静动 yin and yang” principles of your house, not too bright or too dark. Most of our great grand parents usually prefer a house that is “bright which is yang 阳energy”…however having a house that is too bright especially East/West orientation causes agitation and bad temper. The other aspect of strong yang energy is over crowded houses which are not great for relationships.
9. Ensure that the chain of feng shui five elements are not broken. It should consist of the five elements which are wood, fire, earth, metal and water. Any excess or shortfall of a certain element can pose trouble. Any excess of a certain element weakens another element. For instance if the house majority of the windows faces south which are fire energies and the home is filled with electronic toys. The bad effects of excessive fire diminishes the element of metal and wood causing your family members to be impatient and less tolerant with each other.
10. Take a look at your home main door, is it facing anything bad vibes that may endanger relationships for e.g. sharp 45 degree corners or constructions.
11. Do the same for your windows as well, is it facing an on-going construction, MRT tracks, expressways, T-junctions etc.
Open bookshelf – poisonous arrows omg
It is a common misconception that Open bookshelves are poisonous arrows! Some feng shui experts say “open” bookcase with right angle shelves/edges exposed sends killing energy, which is indeed a big joke! In feng shui, poison arrows are bad energies that are symbolic to sharp angular objects. They are NOT 90 degrees. If 90 degree perpendicular is consider as poison arrows then i think most Singapore houses are filled with poison. Why? Tables, coffee table, wardrobe, windows, doors, walls all have right angles at the joints.
Counting of Light bulbs
Some feng shui masters also consider 3 light bulbs are quarrelsome because it is symbolic to the flying star. Let me ask you this question, what happen you have 4 light bulbs but one light bulb blown? So do you consider 3 or 4 ? If you happen to stay in a good class bungalow are you going to count the lights on your ceiling every day to see how lights are working and how many are not?
Kids study desk, back stabbing no such thing!
Another funny concept is that kids study table should not sitting with their back against the door because this will result in back-stabbing. Back-stabbing applies to kids too? huh? If this is an office layout i would concur but who is going to backstab your kid…daddy, mummy, brothers and sisters?
In feng shui we do not sweat over trivials like the ceiling fan, location of piano, wall paintings, shoe racks …etc i have recently seen an you tube video and the feng shui master keep mentioning about clearing the clutter at home, bedroom or study because the house is not a storeroom. You do not need to engage a feng shui master to tell you to keep your house clean, it is common sense because it is definitely more hygienic. We are lucky that we are born in Singapore where we have the luxury of space even for HDB, how about those shoe box apartments or Hong Kong houses when every square metre equates mortgage loan or rent. How to clear the clutter? It is good practice to keep it neat and tidy but this is not the critical issue to help the child in study.
Back of sofa must have a wall
This again is a misnomer. If you own a good class bungalow and the living hall is bigger than a 5 room hdb, are you going to place your sofa at the wall and use a binoculars to watch TV?